Life's Realisation

In life you come across various people with different personalities. While, some might have an optimistic outlook to life the others might be dreadfully pessimistic. Therefore IMO these vast spectrum of people can be differentiated on one main factor which is self-confidence . Are there other factors to differentiate such people in your opinion? Self-confidence is not something that you can purchase. It is something that you should cultivate in yourself over the years. In my eyes I think that the lack of self-confidence is the root cause for people to end up becoming puppets whose lives are controlled by others. Pleasing others in order to avoid conflict is the sole purpose in the life for such people. IMO there are two types of people who fall into this category. Some of them are born to be ruled by others as they prefer getting others to make their decisions and others have turn out to be like that due to a traumatic experience in life (i.e. a bad childhood etc.) Do you think that th...

Just as a flower blooms and slowly withers away, all of us who are born into this world are compelled to traverse through the same phases in life. Nevertheless, most of us who are able bodied tend to forget the realities of old age oblivious to the fact that all of us one day will befall the same fate. I guess the grumbling and childlike behaviour of old people tend to make our patience run on a very small tether?? Nevertheless I think that all of us should stop to ponder on what the elderly are really going through . But trust me sometimes its mind boggling for us to comprehend what they are really going through…coz to us it sometimes seems as though they are pretending. This is probably because we are in denial or because we haven’t placed ourselves in their shoes. In my view being dependent on others due to being unable to do things for yourself is probably the most awful thing in life, because being in such a state hits the core of our self-esteem and in most instances sends the pe...

Ralph Fiennes and together with Juliann e Moore who played the leading roles in the movie “The End of the Affair” brought the plot to life with an electrifying performance. This movie was about a passionate woman who was trapped in a loveless marriage which eventually drove her into the arms of another man. The plot of this movie is very real and applicable to some marriages. There are quite a number of couples who live in loveless marriages where there is simply no love in the marriage anymore or in some instances there never was any love to begin with. What brings a marriage to such a deadlock where you are totally oblivious to the feelings of your spouse? Is it lack of communication or is it due to people being too tied up in the rat race of life?? Well, I wouldn’t know coz I haven’t ventured into marriage as yet…. Nevertheless, I think that it is an awful situation to be in. Aren’t we all human beings with feelings??? Can you blame a person who is driven into the arms of another or...

Doesn’t it sometimes really annoy the hell out of you when some people think that they are “it” and boss the rest around as though they were the most powerful person in the universe?? Well, when it come to me such people just make my blood boil… When I look around I have noticed that most of such swollen headed people are really those with the least power. They think that they are “the cats whiskers” just because of the fact that they work for a significant person (i.e. the Ambassador and other diplomats, GM, CEO, minister etc.). Well, some such people are securities of embassies/ big organizations, sectaries to the senior management in an organization/ ministry etc. Don’t get me wrong, im not saying that all such people are like that ! I just wish that all such small fish (metaphorically speaking) with swollen heads will wake up one day and realize that they ought to get a life without being so bitchy… I guess others too may have come across such arrogant people. What do you think of ...

When I look around I see how money destroys people’s lives. It’s as though it creeps into the human system like a thief in the night and then starts eating away like a cancer into the very core of the human value system. I don’t dispute the fact that all of us need money to survive in this world but in reality how much do we need?? Coz the way I see it the more money people have the more they want. Some people even tend to have the perception that money can buy you anything. I don’t agree with such people coz to me it seems a very shallow way of thinking. Happiness and love which are some of the most magnificent gifts in life can not be bought. Some parents work really hard to earn lots of money to give their kids every luxury in life. But at the end of the day what’s the use of it all?? Those parents will only be able to provide materialistically for their kids which is simply NOT ENOUGH. Children need much more by way of love, affection and not forgetting the most important on the li...

To some marriage seems the “Be All” and “End All” and to others it seems a status symbol. Why on earth is that the case heaven only know….. I am not referring to the couples who have been carrying on for a long period of time and then ventured into marriage. In my eyes such people are wise coz I think its best to get to know the person properly before taking that big leap. Many Sri Lanka’s stick to traditions and get married through proposals without getting to know the other person properly. But, I guess getting married via proposals is part and parcel of some people’s culture and I guess their mind frames are trained from their tender years. I seriously can’t see myself ever getting married through a proposal coz there is quite a lot of unknown elements in the picture. Then again it’s not only in proposals that people hardly get to know each other before getting married… Well, I personally have nothing against marriage. Nevertheless, what I don’t get is why on earth people rush into ...

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I read in the “Sunday Times” newspaper last week (26th Nov 2006) that some Sri Lankan students out of a group of fellow students were refused visas to UK on flimsy grounds. Apparently they had applied for visas in order to attend their convocation in UK. It’s really disgusting to see how we Sri Lankan’s are treated with little or No respect at every side we turn. Well, I am not oblivious to the fact that there are quite a number of illegal immigrants from Sir Lanka. But then again it’s not fair to measure everyone with the same yard stick…. I really don’t understand how on earth the real culprits wriggle their way through the embassy while the genuine people get rejected. Money sure talks in today’s world and the innocent just get steam rolled….. In fact I know a person who applied for a Schengen visa at the French Embassy, in order to travel to Spain on a holiday to visit her uncle but was rejected on both occasions that she applied. When it comes to the French Embassy no reason is gi...

Most of us have been brought up in a manner that we tend to scorn people who don’t belong to our so called social circles. This is so damn stupid as all of us rich or poor, black or white, church goer or heathen, Sinhalese, Tamil, Muslim or Burgher are all HUMAN BEINGS…. Why can’t most of us comprehend this fact that stares us right in the face???? Who the hell are we fooling by building up so many man-made barriers between fellow human beings?? Well, all I can say is that such pompous people who consider themselves superior to others are nothing but Pigheaded… Better yet in most occasions it is such people that they scorn that come to their assistance in their time of need. I hope that all of us will take the time to put in that extra effort to treat every human being with respect because you will always reap what you sow….

Its just unimaginable how fickle life is. We could be here today and gone tomorrow but worse yet is when someone we really love departs from us. Well, I have experienced the sense of loss at a very tender age. It has taught me to value each moment coz “Tomorrow My Never Come”. Sometimes it is really scary to think of how uncertain life is coz it makes you very sensitive to life. But I guess when the inevitable happens we just have to be strong and carryon. Just as everything is uncertain the only other certain thing is that one day we all have to bid farewell to this world…….. We all have to be constantly prepared to exist this world because our last hour is unknown. I just hope and pray that all of us will be able to live more meaningful lives and live life while it is ours to live. Leave no room for regrets because an opportunity once lost is lost forever….

Life sure is strange at times coz at one minute you may be overjoyed and at the other you may feel like a rag….. And Gosh not to mention life is so complicated… At times it’s simply exhausting to think about the future. Don’t any of you out there worry about the future???

Hi All, I am thrilled to have my own blog as it will give me the change to share all my random thoughts and dreams. I hope that I will have the participation of all you guys.