Life's Realisation

“When you get married be very careful as to who raises your face veil. Make sure that, that person is not a widow or a divorcee or a childless lady” he rambled off to me a few days ago. “What’s the big deal?” I said. “It is very bad for the bride coz most of the time, she ends up with some ill fate. Like her marriage will go on the rocks or she won’t be able to bare children or something bad like that” He said. “All rubbish, I don’t believe in all that jazz, whatever that’s meant to be will happen. We can’t change our fate and besides it’s not right to treat people like the plague just coz they are a widow, childless or a divorcee” I said. “Your very head strong” He said. “Que Sera Sera.... whatever will be will be” I remember saying and wrapping up the conversation. ( Que Sera Sera … are the words off an old vintage song ) Are you a superstitious person??? I don’t know about you all but I sure don’t believe in such superstitions even though many of my relatives are quite superstitio...

Ralph Fiennes and together with Juliann e Moore who played the leading roles in the movie “The End of the Affair” brought the plot to life with an electrifying performance. This movie was about a passionate woman who was trapped in a loveless marriage which eventually drove her into the arms of another man. The plot of this movie is very real and applicable to some marriages. There are quite a number of couples who live in loveless marriages where there is simply no love in the marriage anymore or in some instances there never was any love to begin with. What brings a marriage to such a deadlock where you are totally oblivious to the feelings of your spouse? Is it lack of communication or is it due to people being too tied up in the rat race of life?? Well, I wouldn’t know coz I haven’t ventured into marriage as yet…. Nevertheless, I think that it is an awful situation to be in. Aren’t we all human beings with feelings??? Can you blame a person who is driven into the arms of another or...

To some marriage seems the “Be All” and “End All” and to others it seems a status symbol. Why on earth is that the case heaven only know….. I am not referring to the couples who have been carrying on for a long period of time and then ventured into marriage. In my eyes such people are wise coz I think its best to get to know the person properly before taking that big leap. Many Sri Lanka’s stick to traditions and get married through proposals without getting to know the other person properly. But, I guess getting married via proposals is part and parcel of some people’s culture and I guess their mind frames are trained from their tender years. I seriously can’t see myself ever getting married through a proposal coz there is quite a lot of unknown elements in the picture. Then again it’s not only in proposals that people hardly get to know each other before getting married… Well, I personally have nothing against marriage. Nevertheless, what I don’t get is why on earth people rush into ...