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Do you Steamroll your children?

Whether it be in selecting a course of study or selecting a life long partner, it is commonplace to hear about numerous instances where parents have pressurised their children into doing things against their own freewill. This is simply because parents think that they can rule their children’s lives because they were instrumental in bringing them into the world. I think it is highly unfair, coz after all the children will have to live with the consequences of such decisions in the end. What’s utterly tragic is the fact that generally in certain cultures the parental “Iron fist ruling” tradition keeps reoccurring over and over again, due to it being inculcated in their society and community. All children long for love, affection and understanding from their parents irrespective of whether they are a toddler or an adult. Domineering parents fail to see their children for who they really are and most of the time end-up by paying the high price of loosing them as such children will undoubt...

Be protective - But have limits

Sometime back one of my friends mentioned that she had an encounter with an overprotective mum. Apparently when she had asked to carry the baby the mother out of reluctance had given her the baby to keep on her lap and had said to her “Hold him tight and don’t drop him ok….Otherwise I will kill you”. My firend had apparently not retaliated to what was said as she knew that the mother of the child didn’t mean it per say, as they were like sisters. Nevertheless, it had been a very awkward moment because she was shell shocked and hurt by the statement and had to put on a plastic smile to hide her real feelings. There was no doubt that these words that she blabbered unconsciously came from her overly protective motherly instincts and also probably because this was her first born; but I don’t think that, that simply justifies this situation. We live in a wicked world and we have to be very protective of our children as you can never tell what will happen. But at the same time I think that ...